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Family Law - Focusing On The Kids In Child Custody Matters

Friday, February 03, 2017
Family Law - Focusing On The Kids In Child Custody Matters

There is a plethora of advice available about how to handle child custody matters when divorcing. After reviewing some of the material, one author sums up the information as simply: put the kids first. How do you accomplish this? Here are a few tips.

1. Be Positive

Though a relationship between two parents obviously changes during a break up, putting hurt feelings aside is necessary when the kids are involved. Unless ill intent is shown, assuming good intentions helps one remain calm instead of tense when sharing parenting duties.

2. Think First

Before acting, one might need to consult a lawyer for family law matters when considering a parenting plan. Additionally, think about how you act when the kids are around. Here are some guidelines:

  • Don't badmouth the other parent
  • Don't discuss any dirty details or vent about the situation
  • Don't use children as messengers or put them in the middle of drama

3. Work with your former partner

People with children don't have the luxury of never speaking to an ex again. Children want and need a relationship with both parents after a divorce, and communicating is a fundamental part of co-parenting. Working with the other parent without strain might take time but is ultimately best for you and your kids.  When parents work together to create a safe, loving environment across two households, kids are given order, security, and stability.

Children learn from their parents, so your actions during and after a divorce influence how your kids will react. This makes a positive, thoughtful approach from both parents important. When handling family law matters, contact us for assistance.